Make the Commitment –
CREATE A COMPLAINT FREE LIFE….
"The only permanent, constructive changes you can make in the world are the changes that you make in yourself." - Gary Zukav, Seat of the Soul
Have you ever noticed how many conversations involve complaining or whining or gossip or criticism? Think about it. Watch throughout your day and see how many conversations contain – or are introduced by – one of those four elements.
So, I have a challenge for you…I challenge you to give up complaining COLD TURKEY for 21 consecutive days. And here’s why:
1. Complaining puts your powerful, creative attention on the problem. Focusing on problems, and then verbalizing them, creates a continuous stream of energy flowing towards what’s not working. (Not what you really want to create)
2. Complaining and gossiping are convenient, socially accepted ways of staying stuck and distracted. Wouldn’t you rather take responsibility for creating a better reality?
3. Complaining fosters feelings of dissatisfaction, annoyance, and resentment. You can make the choice to journey down an empowering path to create happiness, contentment, and gratitude.
Your attention is the most powerful, creative tool
that you possess.
Where you place your attention has everything to do with the stories you are writing about your life. Once you recognize the POWER of your attention and focus, you will want to be meticulous about where you place this cherished energy.
What you focus on grows. Repeat this: Energy flows where attention goes.
If you don’t believe me, just start witnessing it in your own life.
And this is it… Stop complaining, gossiping and criticizing. Now.
Even if you think you don’t do much bemoaning, make this commitment. You might be surprised to find out how many of your everyday conversations begin with a seemingly small complaint. And how good it feels to eliminate them.
The Complaint Free “SAVE” Factor – Offer a Solution
You can “save” a complaint – and turn it around when you catch yourself in the act. You can do this by quickly adding the word “AND,” and then challenging yourself to offer a solution.
For instance: “Geez, I’m drained by Kathy coming into my office and gossiping everyday,” becomes “Geez, I’m drained by Kathy coming into my office and gossiping everyday — AND I am going to challenge myself to face the discomfort and ask her to please not do it anymore.”
Eckhart Tolle says:
“Complaining is not to be confused with informing someone of a mistake or deficiency so that it can be put right. And to refrain from complaining doesn’t necessarily mean putting up with bad quality or behavior. There is no ego in telling the waiter your soup is cold and needs to be heated up–if you stick to the facts, which are always neutral. ‘How dare you serve me cold soup…?’ That’s complaining.”
Remember: Complaining builds your ego.
Your ego is the scared part of you that doesn’t want to try anything new. Complaining makes your ego stronger because it makes someone or something else wrong – and it makes YOU right. Letting go of complaining tells your ego that YOU, your Wise Self, have decided to run the show, not your ego.
Finding solutions and making changes is a challenge to your ego. It’s actually a way of training yourself to face your fears and look for the solutions and the power within.
Now, sign and post your Complaint Free Contract where you see it daily.
Studies prove that it takes 21 days of repeating an activity to form a new habit. That means that if you can go 21 full days without complaining, gossiping, or criticizing, you will create a whole new thought pattern in your life. And I’m guessing you will feel and be a whole lot happier and healthier and nicer to be around. And that makes the world a better place to live.
Do tell me how it goes. Send me your stories on Facebook.